Dealing with Guilt
- Last updated on January 24, 2012
Guilt is an extremely destructive quality. It completely puts down our self worth and makes us feel responsible for our pet’s death. We feel angry and helpless. We start to question our actions, integrity, and sincerity. What did I do wrong? Why couldn’t I do more? It’s all my fault. Did I put my pet down too soon? If only I had been there sooner or more often. If only I had more money to help my pet. If only I took my pet to the vet more often.
These critical thoughts persist and only make us feel worse, making the situation worse. The key is accepting. Know that you did nothing wrong. Everything that happened was exactly what was supposed to happen for the evolution of your pet, you, and the earth. It was simply the pet’s time to go. Although the pain is difficult and even at times unbearable, just feel that pain, accept it, and let it go. The present moment is difficult but this feeling will pass. Nothing lasts forever.
Everything you did was done with good intentions and with love. You did the best you could in the present situation, and that’s all that can be asked of you. Your family and even your pet knows this and is grateful. Everything you did was perfect. There are no mistakes, no should-haves or could-haves. Life unravels according to the universal plan and we must endure every situation, even if they are difficult and painful. Placing blame doesn’t help anybody. There is no good or bad, no right or wrong. There simple just is. Just know the situation for what it is, and place no judgment.
Remember who you are and the goodness within you. You are a beautiful being who took in a beloved creature and loved him or her as much as you know how. You spent time playing, cleaning, feeding, loving, and taking care of your pet. They know that you love them and they love you so much.
Once you are able to forgive yourself, you will be so much better for it. You will be able to comfort the people around you, and others that may one day be in this same situation. This is an event you need to experience in order to grow, to learn from, and one day teach.
Thank you for caring so much. One day soon you will feel better. Sending lots of love and peace to you.